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UK Websites

♥ SANDS (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society) -  Helpline - 020 7436 5881  Support for anyone affected by the death of a baby before or soon after birth.


♥ Compassionate Friends -  Helpline - 0845 123 2304  Organisation of bereaved parents offering understanding and support for anyone affected by the death of a child.


♥ Bereavement Care -  Helpline - 0844 477 9400  Charitable organisation offering counselling, bereavement support, advice and information on practical matters for anyone affected by bereavement in any way and at any age.


♥ BLISS (Baby Life Support Systems) -  Helpline - 0500 618 140 National charity providing information and support to parents of premature or sick newborn babies in special care baby units.


♥ Counselling Directory Website dedicated to connecting you with a professional counsellor or psychotherapist in your area. 


♥ The Bluebell Foundation -      

Charity local to South Cumbria who provide information and support to parents, families and others affected by the loss of a baby, infertility or those facing difficult decisions relating to pregnancy.  

 Call 07516556081   or   07849400315  to speak to a Bluebell Practitioner.


♥ Baby Mailing Preference Service -  This free service sympathetically

 and effectively reduces the amount of baby related information you receive. Simply follow the link to register.


♥ Tigerlily

Tigerlily is our closed friendship support group for bereaved parents on Facebook. 

Tigerlily is for those who have experienced the loss of a child from conception onwards. This group is based in Cumbria, UK. It is a closed group which means all content is not available to the public eye.

This group is a safe haven for those who have endured a loss and the group is closely monitored by the groups co founders. This group is a full grief circle friendship group, meaning we invite people to share their stories no matter where they are in their walk of grief. This group allows photos of pregnancies and newborn babies. If those sorts of images affect you negatively we suggest for your own heart and healing that you do not join the group.

We ask that those who join Tigerlily respect each other and refrain from using heavy language. This is not a place to advertise giveaways or push your busniesses or fb pages onto people. This is no place for judgement, the preaching or pushing of religions or grief olympics. A loss is a loss and we welcome everyone here. Please do not copy or paste ANY of the images from this group into a public place.
 It is essential that parents feel safe and held in this space, so that comfort can be given and received freely. Thank you for being respectful and mindful of where each individual is in their journey.




International Support Organisations


♥ Babies Remembered -

This is a wonderful site by Sherokee Ilse, full of great support resources. Based in the United States.

♥ CLIMB -  (Center For Loss In Multiple Birth) - 

Organisation set up by parents throughout the United States, Canada, Australia, New Zealand and beyond who have experienced the death of one or more, both or all of their twins or higher multiples at any time from conception through birth, infancy and childhood.


♥ First Candle -  Information and resources for families bereaved through baby loss.


♥ The MISS Foundation -
MISS is a nonprofit, volunteer based organization committed to providing emergency support to families in crisis after the death of their baby or young child from any cause.   They help families cope with the resultant feelings of overwhelming grief and loss.


♥ Remembering Our Babies - Pregnancy and Infant Loss -
The home of the US Awareness campaign. 


♥ Grieving Dads Project -  Project designed to reach out to all bereaved Fathers, providing a place to share their personal stories and their journey through grief.


♥ Still Standing Magazine -  Online magazine for bereaved parents 


♥ The STILL Project -  STILL is a feature length documentary film aimed at breaking the cycle of silence surrounding pregnancy and infant loss.


Places of Support
♥  Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope  (based in USA)
♥  Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep  (NILMDTS)
♥ M.E.N.D.  (based in USA)
♥ Save the Cherubs   (based in USA)
♥ My Baby Angel  (based in USA)
♥ Naomi’s Circle  (based in USA)
♥ A Little Lifetime  (based in Ireland)
♥ Finley’s Footprints  (based in the UK)
♥ Towards Tomorrow Together  (based in the UK)
♥ Anam Cara  (based in Ireland)
♥ All That Love Can Do  (carrying to term after a fatal diagnosis) 
♥ Baby Grief  (based in USA)
♥ Grief Loss Recovery  Hope and health through creative grieving.



Books on Child Loss
Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

♥ Life Touches Life: A Mother's Story of Stillbirth and Healing 

♥ Losing Emily: A Journey Through Stillbirth To Finding Peace and Embracing New Hope 

♥ Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death 

♥ Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving The Death of Your Baby - By Deborah L. Davis 

♥ Mending Invisible Wings - By Mary Burgess 

♥ Pregnancy Loss: Surviving Miscarriage and Stillbirth - By Zoe Taylor 

♥ Mommy, Please Don’t Cry: There Are No Tears in Heaven 

♥ On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss 


♥ They Were Still Born: Personal Stories about Stillbirth 

♥ Honoring A Child Born To Heaven 


♥ Couple Communication After a Baby Dies 


♥ Baby Dust 

♥ An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination: A Memoir 

♥ I Will Carry You: The Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy 

♥ A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss – Guidance and Support for You and Your Family (Revised and     Updated 2nd Edition) 

♥ Heaven is for Real: A Little Boy’s Astounding Story of His Trip to Heaven and Back 

♥ I’ll Hold You In Heaven: Healing and Hope for the Parent Who has Lost a Child through Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Abortion or Early Infant Death 

♥ An Empty Cradle, a Full Heart: Reflections for Mothers and Fathers after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death 

♥ Still: A Collection Of Honest Artwork And Writings From The Heart Of A Grieving Mother 

♥ Hannah’s Hope: Seeking God’s Heart in the Midst of Infertility, Miscarriage, and Adoption Loss 

♥ Grieving the Child I Never Knew 


♥ Healing  a Child's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas for Families, Friends and Caregivers 


♥ Wandering Purgatory  

♥ Mrs. Duck and the Woman ebook  (free download)


♥ Flash of Life  (free download)

♥ Dictionary of Loss 


Books for Grieving Children
♥ The story of the Dragonfly
This is a beautiful story written by Doris Stickney, it was written to explain death to children. However, I believe that it is such a wonderful story for adults too.

Down below the surface of a quiet pond lived a little colony of water bugs. They were a happy colony, living far away from the sun. For many months they were very busy, scurrying over the soft mud on the bottom of the pond. They did notice that every once in awhile one of their colony seemed to lose interest in going about. Clinging to the stem of a pond lily it gradually moved out of sight and was seen no more.


"Look!" said one of the water bugs to another. "one of our colony is climbing up the lily stalk. Where do you think she is going?" Up, up, up it slowly  went....Even as they watched, the water bug disappeared from sight. Its  friends waited and waited but it didn't return...


"That's funny!" said one water bug to another. "Wasn't she happy here?" asked a second... "Where do you suppose she went?" wondered a third.


No one had an answer. They were greatly puzzled. Finally one of the water bugs, a leader in the colony, gathered its friends together. "I have an idea". "The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk must promise to come back and tell us where he or she went and why."


"We promise", they said solemnly.


One spring day, not long after, the very water bug who had suggested the plan found himself climbing up the lily stalk. Up, up, up, he went. Before he knew what was happening, he had broke through the surface of the water and fallen onto the broad, green lily pad above.


When he awoke, he looked about with surprise. He couldn't believe what he saw. A startling change had come to his old body. His movement revealed four silver wings and a long tail. Even as he struggled, he felt an impulse to move his wings...The warmth of the sun soon dried the moisture from the new body. He moved his wings again and suddenly found himself up above the water. He had become a dragonfly!!


Swooping and dipping in great curves, he flew through the air. He felt exhilarated in the new atmosphere. By and by the new dragonfly lighted happily on a lily pad to rest. Then it was that he chanced to look below to the bottom of the pond. Why, he was right above his old friends, the water bugs! There they were scurrying around, just as he had been doing some time before.


The dragonfly remembered the promise: "the next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk will come back and tell where he or she went and why." Without thinking, the dragonfly darted down. Suddenly he hit the surface of the water and bounced away. Now that he was a dragonfly, he could no longer go into the water...


"I can't return!" he said in dismay. "At least, I tried. But I can't keep my promise. Even if I could go back, not one of the water bugs would know me in my new body. I guess I'll just have to wait until they become dragonflies too. Then they'll understand what has happened to me, and where I went."


♥ Tear Soup  
Books for Grieving Grandparents
Books on Infertility
Blogs & Communities
♥ Christian’s Beach  (Australia)
♥ Rose Petals  (USA)
♥ Gifts for Angels  (based in the UK)
♥ The Rabbit Hole
♥ Courageous
Special Resources
♥ Mason’s Cause  (based in USA)
♥ Angel Cuddle Bears  (based in the UK)
♥ Mikayla’s Grace   (based in USA)
♥ Lost for Words Card Line  (based in USA/Australia)
♥ The Stillbirth Foundation   (based in Australia)
♥ Megan’s World  (based in the UK)
♥ STILL Project  (Documentary film in the making)
♥ Ella’s Halo  (based in USA)
For Dads
Facebook Pages for Loss & Support
♥ Beth Morey 
♥ M.E.N.D. 


♥ Make You Feel My Love by Adele
♥ Glory Baby by Watermark
♥ Still by Gerrit Hofsink
♥ After the Storm by Mumford and Sons
♥ I Grieve by Peter Gabriel
♥ Your Hands by J.J. Heller
♥ When I’m With You - Oliviana by J.J. Heller
♥ Fly by Celine Dion
♥ Still by Gerrit Hofsink
♥ After the Storm by Mumford and Sons
♥ I Grieve by Peter Gabriel
♥ Jealous of the Angels by Jenn Bostic
♥ The Island Soundtrack  My Name is Lincoln
♥ I Will Carry You by Selah
♥ Shelter by Sandra McCracken
♥ Beautiful Things by Gungor
♥ Beauty Will Rise by Steven Curtis Chapman
♥ I Give You to His Heart – by Alison Krauss
♥ Gone Too Soon – by Daughtry
♥ Starchild – Lucinda Drayton
♥ To Where You Are – Josh Groban
♥ Held - Natalie Grant
♥ MLK – U2
♥ I Will Remember You – Sarah McLachla
♥ Angel – Sarah McLachlan
♥ Somewhere Over The Rainbow -  Israel Kamakawiwo’ole’s Version
♥ To Build A Home – The Cinematic Orchestra


October 15th International Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day + Global Wave of Light
We are very grateful to Scott and Claire for their generous hospitality in hosting us for our annual Remembrance Celebration. We invite you to join us for a very special evening remembering and celebrating all our babies and children gone to soon.
On this special date, we will light candles and be part of the global wave of light around the world. It will be an evening of remembering and honouring our babies, sharing and connecting with those who have travelled this path and those who help us to travel it. 
If you would like to come along, please join our event on Facebook - to help us prepare for accommodating you.

Doors open 6pm please come early to allow time for candle lighting and putting an angel on our remembrance tree in memory of your baby or child. 
There will be tea and coffee afterwards and time to talk and connect with each other.
We hope to see you there, message or email Val with any questions you may have, I will do my best to answer -

We understand that some of you may wish to join us for the Remembrance Celebration but be unable to attend - with this in mind we would like to offer you a way to include your precious babies too. If you send us their name in an email we will honour them by lighting a candle for them and speaking their name with all our babies during the ceremony.
United we honour our precious ones, together we help each other to heal.
Love and blessings, Val x x x